下面是學(xué)習(xí)啦小編整理的雙語閱讀：膽怯沒有什么大不了，歡迎大家閱讀!

　　Is Overwhelming Shyness Holding You Back?

　　Were you one of those shy kids clinging to your mom's leg? Did you dodge attention, feel inferior and avoid being called out? Still doing that as an adult?

　　童年時你是否喜歡躲在媽媽身后?那時你是否害怕引人注意，被人一喊名字你就戰(zhàn)戰(zhàn)兢兢?成后年你還是那樣嗎?

　　Shyness and overwhelming self-doubt are more common than you think, and they're holding back millions of people just like you from living more exciting and fulfilling lives. But it doesn't mean that you can't destroy that terrifying fear that has been holding you back. You aren't meant to be shy. And there is no reason you can't shine in your own way.

　　其實害羞和極度自我懷疑比你想象的要常見，它們拖住了成千上萬個像你一樣的人的步伐，阻礙他們享受生活的刺激，干擾他們充實生活。但這并不意味你對其束手無策。膽怯也并非注定。世間沒有任何力量能夠阻止你發(fā)出耀眼的光芒。

　　From social gatherings, to business meetings, to your one-on-one relationships, if you want to break free from shyness, create better relationships and be more comfortable in your skin when you are around people then read on. There are time-tested techniques that have served me well in my personal life, as well as helping my clients. In a world where relationships are everything, you must set yourself apart and still stay true to who you are. Here is how to break free from shyness:

　　從社交聚會，到商務(wù)會議，再到二人關(guān)系，如果你想掙脫膽怯的繩索，打造更好的人際關(guān)系，或者想在人多的場合中感到舒適自在，那就繼續(xù)往下讀。我個人就有一些歷經(jīng)時間篩選的方式，它們適用于我，同時也幫助了我的客戶。在這個關(guān)系說了算的時代，你必須在面面俱到的同時又不忘自我。以下就是克服羞怯的方式：

　　It's more of a mindset than what you do.

　　膽怯只是心態(tài)問題

　　From someone who has overcome overwhelming shyness and helps people gain more self-confidence to create more connection with other people, I'm about to break it down for you. What you are about to learn is the mindset of people who stand out, go after what they want and have great relationships.

　　作為一個克服了自我膽怯并且成功幫助他人獲得社交自信的過來人，我也將助你攻克難關(guān)。你需要學(xué)習(xí)那些出眾的人的心態(tài)，看他們有哪些需求，又是怎樣建立了廣泛的人脈資源。

　　This is a state of mind that if adapted will help you in your love life, your career, your health and your spiritual life.

　　如果你掌握了這種心態(tài)，那你的愛情、事業(yè)、健康和精神世界都將得到幫助。

　　What are some limiting beliefs about yourself that you currently hold that need to be changed?

　　至今你有哪些局限的思維需要改變?

　　Set realistic expectations.

　　樹立實際期望

　　Everyone wants something different. One person may want to be on stage, whereas someone else may just want to be comfortable on a date or in a business meeting.

　　每個人都想有所作為。有人渴望萬眾矚目，也有人期待一場快樂的約會或者會議。

　　As you learn these techniques and insights, it is important to be very clear about what you want and what it looks like. The goal here is to get you to feel good about being who you are and connecting with people.

　　你要掌握這些技巧和洞察力，因為你得清楚自己想要什么，清楚那些渴望是怎樣的情形。這個目的在于讓你自信地做自己也能自信地與人交往。

　　Everyone has a different expectation when it comes to what they want and how they want to feel when they connect to people.

　　說到與人打交道和其目的時，每個人都有不同的期許。

　　What do you want? How do you want to feel when you are around people? What does that look like for you?

　　你的目的是什么?當(dāng)你與別人在一起時你是作何感受?而你又是怎樣的狀態(tài)?

　　Focus on sharing.

　　注意分享

　　By far, the most effective technique in overcoming shyness is to switch your consciousness from you to them.

　　目前為止，克服膽怯最為有效的方式就是將自我意識轉(zhuǎn)移到他人身上。

　　Remember the last time you were in a situation and you were nervous or shy? I'd be willing to bet you were focusing on yourself: how you looked, what you were going to say, or how different you were from everyone else.

　　還記得最近那個使你緊張或羞怯的場景嗎?我敢打賭你肯定是將注意力集中到自己身上了：你在乎自己的外表，關(guān)心要說什么話或者如何做到與眾不同。

　　People that shine are focusing on delivering, serving and benefiting others in some way. They focus outward, not inward. Sure, it's important to be aware of how you are being perceived, but people always remember how you make them feel. In order to make them feel good you must focus on sharing with them.

　　出眾的人都只注意與別人交流，為他人服務(wù)或幫助他人。他們看見的是外在事物而非自我感受。當(dāng)然，偶爾注意下別人對自己的看法也是有必要的，但人們往往只會記得你給他們的印象。所以為了讓對方有個好印象，你必須專注于分享。